10 Things You Should Never Ask Couples Battling Infertility – Kambua

Gospel artist Kambua is among the few personalities who have been open about their journey in battling childlessness and how she eventually welcomed motherhood.

After getting married, Kambua waited for 7 years before she got her firstborn child and according to her the things that kept her going during this season is her faith in God and having a supportive partner.

The vocal singer has been actively creating awareness and in several instances encouraged others who are battling infertility.

In a recent post, the mother of one enlightened a few things that people should not ask or say to a person or couple who are struggling to get a child.

Kambua during her struggle faced cyberbullying and endless trolls from people who frequently questioned her about the situation.

“Having walked the long, painful, sometimes lonely journey of infertility, I would like to share with you some things that women like me would like you to know.” she wrote in her post

Check them out

1.STOP asking people when they’re going to have children/ why they’re taking so long

2.If they have already have a child, STOP asking when they will have another. (Secondary infertility exists)

3.Weight gain is not an invitation to talk about whether or not someone is pregnant

4.By all means, invite us to your baby showers. STOP walking on eggshells around us

6. DON’T make suggestions/give advice on what to do “Just do IVF… Just Adopt”, etc, unless your opinion has been sought.

7. Miscarriage & infant loss is a deep, deep form of heartbreak. Avoid saying things like, “God loved them more”… “It was God’s will”… “You’ll get another one”. Sometimes, silence is really golden.

8. DON’T minimize the issue. Listen. Sympathise. Listen.

9.STOP telling men that they score blanks, or telling women to up their game. It’s not about sexual prowess!

10. DON’T compare people’s journeys. “So and so also had blocked tubes, PCOS, Endo”, etc. Everyone’s journey is unique and different

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